Gray family

Please see below for dates and census information.
Information collected through family documents has been courtesy of Sharon Strange.

Thomas Gray, (1804-1858), a carpenter and wheelwright, married Mary Ann Coventry (1808-1865) on the 29 November 1831 at Chalgrove in Oxfordshire. They had seven children, of which three came to live in East Oxford in the mid-nineteenth century.  The three children were Matthew (b 1834), Thomas (b 1839) and Abednego (b 1845) who were carpenters and builders. Rural migration was common during this time as the cities offered more employment opportunities. This was particularly so in the developing East Oxford suburb.

1. Matthew Gray, a carpenter, according to the 1861 census lived in Bath Street, Cowley. He later moved to Pembroke Street (now Rectory Road).  At this time Mathew was married to Harriet Quartermain and there were two children, William born on 8 March 1859, and Harriet born in 1861. The 1871 census lists more children Walter (10), Joseph (8), Charles (6), George (4), Albert (2), and John (1). The family built up a successful building business from Rectory Road.  Building workers were needed in the developing area. By 1881 Mathew Gray had moved to 200C Cowley Road.  He was a widower aged 46 years and his daughter Harriet was listed as his housekeeper. William (22), Joseph (18) and Charles (16) were carpenters. Albert (11) Agnes (8) and Alice (4) were the younger children in the household.

William Gray, the eldest son, attended school in Iffley Road and was a chorister at the Iron Church in Stockmore Street. When he left school aged 14 he worked as a carpenter in his father’s business.  He married Elizabeth Ann Steventon in 1881 and the 1891 census reports that the family lived at 114 Bullingdon Road with six of their children: William Henry (9), Alice Harriett (7), Matthew Frederick (6), Harry Joseph (4), Frank Arthur (2), and Dorothy Kate (4 months) along with Mr Mathew Gray aged 56, who was living with them. He built up his own builders' and funeral director’s business at 6 Rectory Road, (known later as W.M. Gray & Son Ltd). By the time of the 1901 census the family had moved to 125 Bullingdon Road and had increased, now including Leigh Richard (8), Victor Charles (6), Arthur John (3), and Elizabeth Agnes (1). William (19) and Matthew (15) were both carpenters and joiners. Elizabeth Gray died in 1906, and in 1907 William married Fanny Katherine Axtell, by whom he had four more children (fourteen altogether). (See for further information on the Axtell family. The stone cross memorial B86 bears the mason’s mark ‘Axtell & Son’)

In 1903 William Gray then a relatively successful business man stood as a progressive candidate for East Ward and was duly elected. He went on to be chosen as Sheriff of Oxford and elected Mayor in November 1910. When he died in 1931, large crowds lined the funeral route from St Clement’s Church to Rose Hill cemetery.

2. Thomas Gray senior (1839-1889) also worked as a carpenter.  On 25 March 1860 he married Charlotte Walton in Banbury. In 1861 aged 21 years (given as 24 years on the census) he lived at Bath Street, Cowley.  The family lived in various homes in east Oxford including Princes Street, Robin Hood Terrace and 99 Catherine Street.  By 1881 the couple were living at 1 Catherine Street with their nine children, Emma Gray (21), Thomas (17) Carpenter, Esther Ann Gray (16), Mary A Gray (14), Harriet Gray (12), Ernest G Gray (10), Frank Gray (8) Benjamin Gray (6) and Joseph Gray (4).

Thomas Gray senior ran his carman’s business from No 1 Catherine Street. There were stables out the back for the horses and carts.   Descendants of Thomas Gray report that Thomas was also a builder who built No.1 Catherine Street and a cottage named Tysoe Cottage (his wife Charlotte was born in Tysoe, Warwicks.)  Relatives also owned No 17 Catherine Street and ‘a few others’ in the street.

Thomas & Charlotte Gray

Thomas Gray senior died of bronchitis in 1889 aged 49. He is buried in Ss Mary & John churchyard with his wife Charlotte in D241. Thomas’ will left his Carman business to his wife, to be managed by his sons Frank and Joseph who would inherit the property at No.1 following Charlotte’s death.  Meanwhile, Charlotte was to receive “monies and interest arising from my Freehold property and land situated in Katherine Street Donnington Road Maudlen (sic) Road”.

The eldest son Thomas Gray junior inherited the building portion of his father’s business as his trade was also carpentry.  He was instructed to complete the works in hand in Magdalen Road and to build on two plots of land in Katherine Street adjoining Tysoe Cottage.  In 1891 Thomas Gray junior and his family were living at 110 Magdalen Road (possibly ‘the works’ referred to).

After Frank’s death in 1912 Joseph continued with the carman’s business, gradually transferring from horses to lorries. Relatives remember seeing their lorries about town so the business was still going until at least the 1950s.

Benjamikn, Frank & Esther Ann (Archebutt) Gray

Several of Thomas Gray senior’s children are buried in the churchyard in the same grave B35: Esther Ann Gray (married name Archebutt) who died on 10 March 1927 aged 61 (she was living in Pimlico SW1 in London at the time and either brought back to be buried at Ss Mary and John or died suddenly whilst visiting the area); Frank who died in 1912 aged 39; Benjamin who died in 1901 aged 21yrs.

Harriet Evans nee Gray

Mary Ann Gray, one of Thomas Gray senior’s daughters, married William Charles Simmonds who as a youngster lived at 121 Cowley Road. When they married, Mary and William lived at 117 Magdalen Road.  Three of their young children died in 1890, 1892 and 1901. Mary Ann died on 28 Oct 1926 aged 59 and William died on 23 April 1931 aged 67. They are buried in Ss Mary & John Churchyard (C10).

Mary Ann Simmonds nee Gray

Harriet Gray, another daughter, married Francis Evans who in 1881 lived at 126 Bullingdon Road with his family. Harriet died in 1929 as did Francis and they are both buried in the graveyard (B49).

Thomas Gray junior married Emily Henrietta Cox (b 1864) on 2 June 1884. They had four children, Emily Henrietta (baptised as a Cox at Ss Mary & John Church on 20 April 1882), Ellen Harriet Gray, b 1890, Lucy Clementine, b 1892 and Maud Beatrice Gray b 1896. They had two other children who died when they were young, Eveline Dora in 1890 and Florence Mary in 1895. These children were buried in the churchyard but the location is not known. In 1885 the family were living at 3 Howard Street.  By 1890 they had moved to 110 Magdalen Road, and in 1895 were living at 4 Hertford Street. Medical records report that Thomas had a mental health illness and was admitted to Littlemore Asylum on 12 May 1896 after suffering from melancholia and having an ‘attack’. Thomas died in Littlemore Asylum in 23 April 1897, aged 34, of ‘general paralysis over 2 years.’

Health and welfare

The early death of Thomas junior, the major bread winner, meant that the family went from a comfortable (within working class terms) position into ‘living hand to mouth.’ There was no welfare state to support the family. His youngest child (out of nine) was 12 years old at the time of his death. Emily Gray married Alfred Berry a boilermaker, (1873-1924) on 30 July 1898 at Cheltenham.  Their first child was born in Cheltenham in 1899, but in 1901 they were living in Grimsbury near Banbury. The birth of their third child Aubrey was registered in Headington district (which incorporates Cowley) in 1903 and the family lived at 13 Barnet Street. Emily had to take in washing to make ends meet, despite not having a water source in the house.  Emily Berry died in 1939.

The Grays appear to have been doing well in their businesses but the menfolk seemed to have died prematurely (except Joseph and Ernest).  Thomas senior aged 49 from bronchitis, Benjamin aged 26, Frank aged 39 and Thomas junior aged 33.  Although two of Thomas junior’s children died, those that survived into adulthood, despite being poorer, lived much longer than their uncles. 

Abednego Gray

3. Abednego Gray, the youngest of the three brothers who migrated into Oxford, was born in 1845 at Great Milton. By 1861 Abednego was working as a 16 year old apprentice carpenter living in the centre of the village of Waterstock with his widowed mother and his younger brother Joseph, a servant.  The family appear to have been primarily supported by an older sister Ann, a school mistress.

Abednego married Emily Oliver (born about 1842 in Great Milton) in 1864.  He continued to follow the primary family occupation of carpentry, and also settled in East Oxford. In 1871 they were living at 19 James Street.  By 1881 they had moved to 66 James Street. He too died at a young age, 40 years old in 1885, just after the birth of his 10th child. He is buried in the churchyard: D138.  Abednego’s widow was still living at 66 James Street in1891.

Susanne Shatford and Trevor Williams, The Changing Faces of St Clements and East Oxford, Book One (Robert Boyd Publications, 1997)

Emily Henrietta Gray nee Cox

Lucy Clementine GRAY (born 1892) is the bride. Seated 2nd left is Ellen Harriet GRAY, 4th left is her mother Emily GRAY.  Maud Beatrice GRAY is in the back row, 2nd left. Probably the eldest sister, named Emily Henrietta after her mother, and her husband are 4th and 5th left on the back row.


Thomas Gray b 1804
Mary Ann Coventry b 1808

  1. Elizabeth Gray b 1832
  2. Matthew Gray b 1834
  3. Emma Gray b 1836
  4. Thomas Gray b 1839
  5. Ann Gray b 1842
  6. Abednego Gray b 1845
  7. Joseph Gray b 1848

1881 Census

200C Cowley Road
Matthew Gray b 1835 (46) builder (Widowed)

  1. William M Gray b 1859 (22) carpenter
  2. Joseph Gray b 1863 (18) carpenter
  3. Charles Gray b 1865 (16) carpenter
  4. Harriett Gray b 1861 (20)
  5. Albert Gray b 1870 (11)
  6. Agnes Gray b 1873 (8)
  7. Alice Gray b 1877 (4)

1881 Census

1 Catherine Street
Thomas Gray b 1840   (41) Carpenter
Charlotte Gray b 1839

  1. Emma Gray b 1860
  2. Thomas Gray b 1864 (17) Carpenter
  3. Esther Ann Gray b 1865
  4. Mary A Gray b 1867 (14)
  5. Harriet Gray b 1868 (12)
  6. Ernest G Gray 1871 (10)
  7. Frank Gray 1873 (8)
  8. Benjamin Gray 1875 (6)
  9. Joseph Gray 1877 (4)

Pre 1881:
Princes Street
Robin Hood Terrace
99 Catherine Street


William Matthew Gray 1859
Elizabeth Ann Steventon 1881

  1. William Henry b 1882
  2. Alice Harriett b 1884
  3. Matthew Frederick b 1885
  4. Harry Joseph b 1887
  5. Frank Arthur b 1889
  6. Dorothy Kate b 1891
  7. Leigh Richard b 1893
  8. Victor Charles b 1895
  9. Arthur John b 1898
  10. Elizabeth Agnes b 1900

Married Fanny Axtell 1907
Four more children


1881 Census

66 James Street
Abednego Gray b 1846 (40) Carpenter
Emily Gray b 1843

  1. Alfred Henry Gray b 1865 (16) apprentice shoemaker
  2. Fredrick William Gray b 1866 (15) apprentice carpenter
  3. Edwin Gray b 1868 (13)
  4. Elizabeth Emily b 1870 (11)
  5. Louisa Jane b 1873 (8)
  6. Florence b 1877 (4)
  7. Edith Annie b 1879 (2)
  8. Rosa Ellen b 1881 (1 month)

Thomas Gray b 1863
Emily b 1864

  1. Emily Henrietta Gray
  2. Ellen Harriet Gray b 1890
  3. Lucy Clementine b 1892
  4. Maud Beatrice Gray b 1896

1885: 3 Howard Street
1890: 110 Magdalen Road
1895: 4 Hertford Street


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